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Changing Spaces

2/24/2026

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3 Tips on how to tap into another genre of writing
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For years, I carved my voice into the world as a romance suspense author. The stories I told were not simply born from imagination—they were stitched together from lived experience, emotional scars, whispered “what ifs,” and the relentless curiosity of a writer who needed to make sense of it all. Writing in that genre felt effortless because it was deeply personal. Each chapter became a release. Each plot twist unraveled pieces of my own past. Through my characters, I relived heartbreak, betrayal, passion, and redemption—and in doing so, I found healing. The page became both confession booth and therapy couch.

But healing changes you.

Once I had worked through my own romantic traumas and made peace with love lost, I realized something unexpected: I no longer felt anchored to those stories. The emotional urgency that once fueled my writing had softened. And as writers, we must allow our storytelling to evolve as we evolve. Growth in life should echo in art.

With growth comes choice. Some writers deepen their existing genre, adding layers of maturity and complexity to familiar themes. Others pivot entirely. I chose the latter. I was no longer mentally or emotionally in the space of writing about love unraveling or rekindling. My spirit craved something different—something that would stretch me creatively and challenge my craft in new ways.

There’s nothing wrong with staying in your lane. Mastery is powerful. If something works for you, honor it. But if curiosity starts knocking—answer the door. Exploring a new genre isn’t abandoning your foundation; it’s expanding it. And if the experiment doesn’t unfold the way you imagined, you can always return to your roots with sharper skills and a renewed perspective.

If you’re considering stepping outside your comfort zone, here are 3 tips to keep in mind:
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Research and Read
Before diving in, immerse yourself.

Study the architects of the genre you’re interested in. Read widely and intentionally—not to imitate, but to observe. How do they pace their stories? Where do they heighten tension? How do they introduce conflict, develop stakes, and reward the reader?

Different genres demand different rhythms. In romance suspense, tension often blooms from emotional vulnerability. The suspense is intertwined with matters of the heart—trust, betrayal, longing. The danger may be external, but it is filtered through love’s lens.

In contrast, a straight thriller often builds like a slow-burning fuse. Suspense is planted in breadcrumbs—subtle clues, red herrings, moments that feel slightly “off.” The antagonist may cast a shadow long before stepping fully into the light. The reveal is strategic, deliberate, and often chilling.

In both cases, vivid description is your greatest ally. Paint scenes so clearly that readers can feel the humidity in the air, hear the floorboard creak, and sense the shift in a character’s breathing. Regardless of genre, atmosphere matters.​
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Find Your Style Within the Genre
Switching genres doesn’t mean abandoning your voice.

Your voice—your cadence, emotional depth, humor, or intensity—is what makes readers connect to you. The key is not to become someone else, but to translate who you already are into a new storytelling framework.

Ask yourself:
  •  If I placed my signature emotional depth inside a thriller, what would that look like?
  •  How would my characters express fear? Would it be quiet and internal, or explosive and raw?
  •  How would they process betrayal, ambition, and danger?

Imagine yourself inside these new characters. Let them react in ways that feel authentic to you while still honoring the conventions of the genre. You don’t need to veer so far that your audience feels abandoned. Instead, invite them to grow with you.

And remember—every book is an opportunity to refine your craft. Add new layers. Experiment with pacing. Play with structure. Growth isn’t just about genre; it’s about skill.
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Just Go For It
At some point, the research ends, and the writing begins.

Ideas sitting untouched in a notebook serve no one. When you hesitate too long, you risk depriving readers of a story only you can tell. What if it doesn’t unfold the way you hoped? Then you learn. You revise. You try again.

Success in writing—like in life—is rarely linear. It’s winding, unpredictable, sometimes frustrating, and often exhilarating. But every detour teaches you something about your voice, your resilience, and your range.

So, take the leap.

Stretch your creativity. Challenge your comfort zone. Allow your evolution to show up on the page.
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And most importantly—enjoy the ride.
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The Blakk Dahlia

The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries, outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey.
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When London Calls

2/24/2026

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Latest interview/feature with UK publication, Reader's House Magazine
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I was very humbled to receive the good news that Reader's House Magazine wanted to feature me! Check out the latest interview/feature where I talk about what has shaped my journey in self-published writing, along with my book series, the Heartbreak Diaries. This is one of my BEST interviews yet!

Read an excerpt below and click the link to read the full interview. 
The Blakk Dahlia is an innovative voice in romance literature, blending raw emotion with unfiltered truth while inspiring self-growth beautifully.

Your books often explore themes of love, heartache, and relationships – what do you think is the most common misconception about romance?

One common misconception about romance is that love is supposed to be a perfect fairy tale. Many of us grow up with that expectation from stories and idealized portrayals of relationships. In reality, love can be messy, challenging, and even transformative.

Another misconception is that everyone who enters your life is meant to “save” you or make life automatically better. People often carry unresolved past experiences into new relationships, which can create complications. Growth and healing are possible, but not everyone is looking for the same things, and mismatched intentions can lead to conflict—and heartache.

Read the full interview here!
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The Blakk Dahlia

The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey. Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.

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Me & Writing?! Oh, We’re on a Break

6/13/2025

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Paused between takes. The story’s still unfolding.

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What began as a therapeutic and creative outlet slowly turned into a source of pressure. Writing—once my safe space—became another item on my to-do list, tangled in deadlines, algorithms, and constant promotion. The joy faded, and burnout crept in.

I’ve loved writing since I was a child. I started because I wanted to share pieces of my life through fictional stories—stories with meaning, heart, and a twist. But as I grew, certain topics no longer resonated with me. I wasn’t ashamed of what I’d written before, but I wasn’t in that place anymore. The ideas stopped flowing, and I didn’t know what to write next. That in-between space—between who I was and who I was becoming—was uncomfortable, confusing, and creatively paralyzing.

So, I stepped away.
A break to shake off the pressure.
A break to rediscover the joy.
A break to live.
A break to figure out where my writing journey is truly headed.
 
How Did I Get to that Point?

At first, handling the business side of writing felt exciting. I knew how to promote my books, ride the wave of trends, and build content across platforms. I had momentum—speeding full steam ahead.

But doing everything right didn’t guarantee the success I had pictured. Slowly, that drive began to fade. Writing didn’t feel like a creative outlet anymore—it felt like a job. And not the kind you wake up excited to do. Writer’s block set in and I felt that I lost the drive, the will, and the overall talent I used to become a self-published author.

I found myself in a creative drought, stuck in the ebb, unable to reach the flow. I wanted to do anything but write.
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The Break

Eventually, I shut my laptop and gave myself permission to rest. Real rest.
Not productivity-masked-as-rest.

I tapped into things I hadn’t made time for in years. I remembered how I came up in the “Team No Sleep” era—where hustle was glorified, and rest was weakness. But the true inspiration for my writing? Life. Real moments. Quiet moments. Not constant output.
One month turned into three… then six… then nine.

Still nothing. No new stories. Just a growing list of hobbies and reasons to not return:
  • My career in Web Production is too demanding.
  • Maybe if I buy a new laptop, I’ll feel inspired.
  • Maybe I’ve already said all I needed to say.
  • I should focus on promoting what’s already out.

But eventually, restlessness crept in. That part of me that once thrived off momentum started nudging again. So, I tried—picked up old drafts, started editing—but it felt off. My heart wasn’t in it. I wasn’t in the same space I was when I wrote about heartbreak a decade ago.

I wanted more. More genres. More truth. More growth.

The Growth Part

I let those old stories sit.
Maybe I’ll return to them—maybe not. And that’s okay.

I started thinking about what I love to read: horror, self-help, true stories of resilience. Why couldn’t those stories be part of my portfolio?
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I explored what it would take to write compelling narratives in those genres and quickly realized—I’m not ready to jump back into late-night writing sessions. And that’s okay too.

I reminded myself: I chose self-publishing for the freedom. Yet, I’d been depriving myself of that very thing.

So, I went back to resting. Unapologetically.
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Where Am I Now? Less Pressure More Freedom

These days, I’m rebuilding. Slowly. Intentionally. I’m allowing myself to wander creatively without pressure. I read articles for a few minutes, then switch gears. I journal when I feel inspired, but I don’t force it. I’m learning not to burn out the spark before it becomes a flame.

I no longer carry the weight of needing to produce just to keep up. I don’t panic if I don’t have everything figured out in one night. Because I’ve realized—I don’t have to. I don’t need to release a book every year. I don’t need to race anyone to the finish line.
 
This break? It was necessary.
I needed space to grow. To breathe. To celebrate how far I’ve come.

I had unknowingly boxed myself in: write…release, write…release.
Now? I’m still on the journey. But I’m setting the pace this time.

These quiet moments matter.
They’re where I reconnect, reflect, and remember why I started in the first place.
To tell stories.

From a place of experience and creativity, not pressure.

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The Blakk Dahlia

The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey.Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.

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Did You Leave A Review?

5/22/2025

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I've personally received great feedback on the Heartbreak Diaries Series. Every purchase, read, and kind words are greatly appreciated.

Reviews Matter!
Indie authors need reviews/ratings to stay competitive. Reviews help boost the credibility of a self-published author while sharing your thoughts/views on their work!

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About the Heartbreak Diaries

the Heartbreak Diaries is a romance-suspense series with stories told from the heart’s perspective. The fiction series tackles how one’s heart approaches dating, relationships, marriage, and even "situationships" within the mind frame of living in the past, or concerns about the future.

What's unique about this series is that it dives into these heart types from a real and vulnerable place. Each book has a "dear diary" moment from an integral character, displaying their true intentions within the story.

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The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey.

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Inspired for the “Start”

1/23/2025

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Making plans and putting forth the effort can be miles apart. The first step can be difficult for some, as many don’t know where to begin or what to do first. According to the "society of social media", starting means immediately pounding the pavement with action. In some cases, getting started entails getting motivated and inspired while creating a plan of action. Even seeking these can be beneficial and a step towards “making it happen”. At the beginning of the year, I decided to start by getting my motivation back, as previous years have drained my energy and drive to move forward with the next big thing.

The beginning stages are crucial moments because that’s when doubt and negativity creep in. Daily habits of waking up and “getting to it” can change over time because of the constant “what ifs”. Surrounding the goal with inspiration can help one stick to the plan, no matter how hard it is to get a foot off the ground.

If your “start” isn’t pushing out immediate action, don’t worry! Look at these tips below to learn how you can get the necessary tools to be motivated at the start. 
Get an “idea” of how to begin or where you want to start
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It all starts with an idea. Keep a notepad (or use the phone app), to jot down ideas and creative flows that come to mind. Take pictures of inspirational nuggets and allow those details to come together to create something of your own.
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Seek out experts

Many experts are waiting to give their inspiration and tips to help beginners. Take advantage of the wealth of knowledge they have to offer by tuning into their success stories, failures, and advice on how to navigate.

Search for discussion panels and workshops within your field. (In most cases, they hold these events/discussions for FREE!) Using sites like Eventbrite is a good tool for finding these engagements and events. A simple word/phrase can spark something within you to hit the ground running.
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Talk with friends/colleagues
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There’s nothing like a great support system to help you get motivated and STAY motivated. Bounce ideas off them and get their honest feedback. This can serve in one or two ways; gain business advice (if they are savvy in that field) and views from a consumer’s perspective. Be open but be sure to share with those who are trustworthy and are going to lift you.
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In today’s world, we’re dealing with burnout, personal, and professional problems on top of creating and achieving dreams. That combination can make it hard to stay focused on entering a new venture that can be lucrative in the future. Don’t miss out because life is “lifing”. Start by getting that inspiration you need to guide you into action!
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The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey.

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