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3 Tips on how to tap into another genre of writing  For years, I carved my voice into the world as a romance suspense author. The stories I told were not simply born from imagination—they were stitched together from lived experience, emotional scars, whispered “what ifs,” and the relentless curiosity of a writer who needed to make sense of it all. Writing in that genre felt effortless because it was deeply personal. Each chapter became a release. Each plot twist unraveled pieces of my own past. Through my characters, I relived heartbreak, betrayal, passion, and redemption—and in doing so, I found healing. The page became both confession booth and therapy couch. But healing changes you. Once I had worked through my own romantic traumas and made peace with love lost, I realized something unexpected: I no longer felt anchored to those stories. The emotional urgency that once fueled my writing had softened. And as writers, we must allow our storytelling to evolve as we evolve. Growth in life should echo in art. With growth comes choice. Some writers deepen their existing genre, adding layers of maturity and complexity to familiar themes. Others pivot entirely. I chose the latter. I was no longer mentally or emotionally in the space of writing about love unraveling or rekindling. My spirit craved something different—something that would stretch me creatively and challenge my craft in new ways. There’s nothing wrong with staying in your lane. Mastery is powerful. If something works for you, honor it. But if curiosity starts knocking—answer the door. Exploring a new genre isn’t abandoning your foundation; it’s expanding it. And if the experiment doesn’t unfold the way you imagined, you can always return to your roots with sharper skills and a renewed perspective. If you’re considering stepping outside your comfort zone, here are 3 tips to keep in mind:  Research and Read Before diving in, immerse yourself. Study the architects of the genre you’re interested in. Read widely and intentionally—not to imitate, but to observe. How do they pace their stories? Where do they heighten tension? How do they introduce conflict, develop stakes, and reward the reader? Different genres demand different rhythms. In romance suspense, tension often blooms from emotional vulnerability. The suspense is intertwined with matters of the heart—trust, betrayal, longing. The danger may be external, but it is filtered through love’s lens. In contrast, a straight thriller often builds like a slow-burning fuse. Suspense is planted in breadcrumbs—subtle clues, red herrings, moments that feel slightly “off.” The antagonist may cast a shadow long before stepping fully into the light. The reveal is strategic, deliberate, and often chilling. In both cases, vivid description is your greatest ally. Paint scenes so clearly that readers can feel the humidity in the air, hear the floorboard creak, and sense the shift in a character’s breathing. Regardless of genre, atmosphere matters.  Find Your Style Within the Genre Switching genres doesn’t mean abandoning your voice. Your voice—your cadence, emotional depth, humor, or intensity—is what makes readers connect to you. The key is not to become someone else, but to translate who you already are into a new storytelling framework. Ask yourself:
Imagine yourself inside these new characters. Let them react in ways that feel authentic to you while still honoring the conventions of the genre. You don’t need to veer so far that your audience feels abandoned. Instead, invite them to grow with you. And remember—every book is an opportunity to refine your craft. Add new layers. Experiment with pacing. Play with structure. Growth isn’t just about genre; it’s about skill.  Just Go For It At some point, the research ends, and the writing begins. Ideas sitting untouched in a notebook serve no one. When you hesitate too long, you risk depriving readers of a story only you can tell. What if it doesn’t unfold the way you hoped? Then you learn. You revise. You try again. Success in writing—like in life—is rarely linear. It’s winding, unpredictable, sometimes frustrating, and often exhilarating. But every detour teaches you something about your voice, your resilience, and your range. So, take the leap. Stretch your creativity. Challenge your comfort zone. Allow your evolution to show up on the page. And most importantly—enjoy the ride.  The Blakk DahliaThe Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries, outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey.
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 Making plans and putting forth the effort can be miles apart. The first step can be difficult for some, as many don’t know where to begin or what to do first. According to the "society of social media", starting means immediately pounding the pavement with action. In some cases, getting started entails getting motivated and inspired while creating a plan of action. Even seeking these can be beneficial and a step towards “making it happen”. At the beginning of the year, I decided to start by getting my motivation back, as previous years have drained my energy and drive to move forward with the next big thing. The beginning stages are crucial moments because that’s when doubt and negativity creep in. Daily habits of waking up and “getting to it” can change over time because of the constant “what ifs”. Surrounding the goal with inspiration can help one stick to the plan, no matter how hard it is to get a foot off the ground. If your “start” isn’t pushing out immediate action, don’t worry! Look at these tips below to learn how you can get the necessary tools to be motivated at the start. Get an “idea” of how to begin or where you want to start It all starts with an idea. Keep a notepad (or use the phone app), to jot down ideas and creative flows that come to mind. Take pictures of inspirational nuggets and allow those details to come together to create something of your own.  Seek out experts Many experts are waiting to give their inspiration and tips to help beginners. Take advantage of the wealth of knowledge they have to offer by tuning into their success stories, failures, and advice on how to navigate. Search for discussion panels and workshops within your field. (In most cases, they hold these events/discussions for FREE!) Using sites like Eventbrite is a good tool for finding these engagements and events. A simple word/phrase can spark something within you to hit the ground running.  Talk with friends/colleagues There’s nothing like a great support system to help you get motivated and STAY motivated. Bounce ideas off them and get their honest feedback. This can serve in one or two ways; gain business advice (if they are savvy in that field) and views from a consumer’s perspective. Be open but be sure to share with those who are trustworthy and are going to lift you.  In today’s world, we’re dealing with burnout, personal, and professional problems on top of creating and achieving dreams. That combination can make it hard to stay focused on entering a new venture that can be lucrative in the future. Don’t miss out because life is “lifing”. Start by getting that inspiration you need to guide you into action!  AuthorThe Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey.  This past week, I had the GREAT opportunity to attend the SHE Speaks CES 2025 - Women in Tech panel/mixer in Las Vegas. The panel discussion was a BIG motivational event to inspire women in this field to strive harder in creative works and entrepreneurship. Hearing from those who have "been there/done" while giving the REAL in their journeys was so inspiring and gave me the boost needed to move forward in the next chapter in my own business and creative endeavors.  A few key takeaways:
 We all need those moments where we are reminded and/or motivated by individuals in the same boat as you who have overcome obstacles as well as currently driving through!  The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey. 3 Ways to Get the Most Out of the Route to Success We are all so goal-driven, aren’t we? In the beginning, adrenaline kicks in and the grind begins. Focusing solely on the goal, the tenacity is at its peak, guiding through the way. Realistically, sometimes achieving goals may take a little longer than expected, causing discipline to wane and tenacity to decrease. No one thinks about how much “getting there” can weigh one down. The usual advice to keep going despite can grow tiresome. Yes, motivation is needed, however, what is left to do when the road to success gets too rocky? With a change in how the journey is interpreted, the road to goals won’t have to be so mentally muddy. What is often forgotten during the fight is that many rewards are given along the way, not just at the end. How do we switch that mindset and get the fight in us back? One great way is to narrow in on the journey in itself. There are always steps and/or levels to master when working towards a goal. Focus on and appreciate those steps. Here are three ways to help shift the mindset from driving fast toward an accomplishment to understanding, enjoying, and learning during the route to success.  “Grab hold to the experience of it all to light your path.” 1. Ask: What do I want to experience? Nothing happens by accident, whether it's an observation or an encounter, things find us on our path for a purpose. By fully diving into the experience, small wins are much more satisfactory. Identifying what you want to experience can help achieve mini goals and provide the necessary resources/skills for the future. Perhaps you wanted to work with a key player in your field OR find a way to learn from them through panel sessions and workshops. Most entrepreneurs have worked jobs they hated to make ends meet. During that process, many who worked those odd/bad shaped them for their business endeavors. Grab hold to the experience of it all to light your path. 2. Be open to complementary possibilities/ventures. Starting with only one plan is normal. But if you’re feeling a shift, it's okay to explore to see where it leads. A complementary venture may take you from singing to acting or dancing. In building a business you may start with one product and find that you’re good at a service as well which could lead to building an even bigger brand. You never know how things will come full circle if you don’t follow the course. It is very possible to stay focused on a goal while trying something different. Even if it flops, you’ll be able to apply the lesson(s) learned. When deciding on a career, I started out wanting to be a Marketing Executive. I earned the degrees and did the internships, and once I finally got my foot in the door, things shifted. I was introduced to the world of digital marketing and web production. Being open to this change allowed me to learn amazing skills that helped me professionally and within my entrepreneurial activities. Had I not been open, I wouldn’t have been able to be self-sufficient in building/maintaining websites, email campaigns, and other digital logistics that help a business/brand grow.  3. Switch the style up and try again. Every approach you take won’t be the correct one. Which is why we must try again. However, you may want to re-try with a different approach. Setbacks happen, rest up and clear your mind when needed. A new idea may come during the wait. Start from scratch OR write down your approach and find areas where you can tweak the daily activities. Watch documentaries or videos about how others found their way. It won’t be the blueprint but there is much-needed motivation in hearing how someone else tried one, two, seven, or ten times and WON! “While understanding one’s journey, notice the great stories, lessons, and experiences come from within the path, not the destination.” We always see the results of someone’s success. However, they too have had moments of fear and doubt that could have taken them out of the game. While understanding one’s journey, notice that great stories, lessons, and experiences come from within the path, not the destination. It's never easy but very worth it. Stay the course by refocusing your mind and how you view your route to accomplishments. The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey. Finding the right time to say "I met someone new." We all have them. We can be them sometimes. The overly excited type who will lead you down a road of dating/relationship possibilities. Meanwhile, all you need to do is just breathe and get to know the potential love interest. Most importantly, many have said that as soon as you brag to your friends, the almost relationship fails. Scenario: An open-hearted woman meets a nice guy on an app. They had great conversations, facetime calls, and texts throughout the day. The beginning stage was so promising that she was ready to tell her friends about this potential mate. Even though she was only about two weeks in. All it took was her mentioning him and the friends took off with it. They gave date night ideas, had her on imaginary baecations, urged her to show them pics of him, and brought him up in casual conversations. One of the friends started planning double dates before she went out on a first date with the guy. They'd ask about him every time they spoke to her; asking questions she could barely answer. Only revealing that she still needed more time to get to know him. However, to her friends, it was as if she were in a monogamous relationship.  She and the guy were almost to the point of meeting up...And then the other shoe dropped. He revealed that he only wanted her for casual hookups although she was upfront about wanting a relationship. She was thrown and couldn't understand how someone could switch up so soon. As she mourned the almost lover, she anticipated embarrassment. The next girl's night would entail explaining how he turned into Mr. Wrong. Which turned into upcoming weeks of asking if they'd talked, bashing him, and re-telling the story from their perspective. When all she wanted to do was forget about his existence. Should she have kept it all to herself?  Your friends can't help themselves. They want to see you happy and in love. Which is a GREAT thing. But too much excitement too soon can lead to huge disappointments. Friends can sometimes lead down a road of fantasizing about dates, future plans, etc. It's hard to pull back once its starts and it can cloud judgment when vetting a potential partner. Spilling the beans on a possible relationship is absolutely normal. Taking your friends along that journey can be helpful to some as they provide advice along the way. If you can handle the questions during and after it's over, then share on. It's hard to forget when you have to retract your feelings and statements about that person being so amazing. It's not a complete heartbreak to heal from, but definitely a big disappointment. The benefit of waiting is that you don't have to worry about explaining and dwelling on it not working out. You can enjoy time with your friends and focus on creating memories with them. The only drawback is that when it's over, there's no one to vent to without having to explain everything from the top.  Ways to Calm it Down: Set the tone. If you show up delusional they'll grab it and run. Be transparent in speaking about what it really is instead of what you hope it'll be. Let them know that you're taking it slow. It's not a big deal just yet. Change the narrative from locked in too soon to dating and staying open.Remind. Reiterate that you're just getting to know each other. Not ready for the major stuff yet. Try bringing up random guys you see and think are attractive to show you're still looking. Change the narrative from locked in too soon to dating and staying open. Scale down the fantasy. Instead of talking about what you want in the long run, talk about what you want for the short term. What do you want to know about them? What do you like about them? What do you want them to know about you? Talk about each step of the way and how it's going for you instead of drawing a dramatic picture of the future. Pause. One of the best options is to wait until you know for sure it is something worth pursuing before starting the "I've been seeing this guy/girl..." conversation. In the VERY beginning stages, we meet the "representative"; it feels promising. Give time for the shade to slowly fall. Be honest. If you don't want to talk about it, let them know. They are your friends and will always understand.  It is okay to be excited about meeting someone new. But don't allow the excitement to overshadow the reality of the situation. The potential can lead you on faster than a partner.  The Blakk Dahlia (E. Alexcina Brown) is a New York City author/blogger from Macon, GA. Recently, she released the book series, the Heartbreak Diaries outlining different perspectives of heartbreak. The Dahlia Diaries is a lifestyle blog penned by The Blakk Dahlia, sharing her story in NYC along with life lessons and tips she's learned in her journey. |
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- The Blakk Dahlia from the Heartbreak Diaries Book Series
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