Lifestyle blogs giving my random adventures and life lessons as an "NYC Transplant"
Love in Survival Mode
Book Chat for the book, Devastation or Destiny???
In Devastation or Destiny???, Tanya was faced with a BIG curveball which led to the demise of her relationship. One that she felt would last forever. In losing something so major, piled on top of the pain, humiliation, and lowered self-esteem; she was faced with an opportunity to start over. Then, the opportunity to go back to the comfort zone presents itself leaving her with the decision of, “What life do I choose? The one I want, OR the one in which I know how the story will end.” READ MORE.
"Unsubscribe" in Real Life
Unsubscribe...You have to do that in life as well. We tend to humor people, conversations, and events that are of no interest and value to us. Why? Why do we give into the pressures of useless banter? READ MORE.
A Message: Feel Good Fall
A New Season that Calls for Refocusing to Continue to Move Forward
Fall time is diving into the harvest. Fall festivals, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and so much more! However, in dabbling into watching the leaves paint beautiful pictures on trees, let's dive into refocusing on ourselves. READ MORE.
Roaming around seeing the beauty in the most simplest objects.
Museums and art galleries aren’t the only places where you can get a first-hand look at a masterpiece. Just look around, I mean REALLY LOOK. There are various wanders right in front of you. You have to get out of your mind and focus on what’s around you. READ MORE.
Netflix & A Lazy Day
Make it a Netflix movie day with these recommendations!
To ease the what to do questions for this day, I’ve compiled a list of Netflix movies to watch while taking a break from labor! READ MORE.
Sharing the Shade...Lipsticks!
I always find out about the National “internet appointed” holidays on the day of and sometimes after. (Usually through a hashtag on IG). Luckily, I caught this one in time to participate and share my favorite lipstick shades on the gram. Although National Lipstick Day is now over, there’s never a wrong day to talk about lipstick! READ MORE.
Time to Reset Starting with You!
Snippets from the "7-Day Guide to Forget About Your Heartbreak"
This guide breaks down 7-Days of activities to get your mind refocused and help ease the frustrations of a heartbreak. Learn how to get back to YOU! Take care of you by refueling so that you can rejoin the world refreshed. Now go get over the heartbreak! You deserve it! READ MORE.
Distracted: Tips on How to Cope w/ Moving On
In “Rushing to Distraction”, Farrah stayed within the feelings of getting distracted by what should have been. In her mind, she settled in the thoughts of what she wanted versus what was standing in front of her. What was in front of her was a man, by the name of Jamie, who refused to give her what she deserved. Instead, Farrah created a facade, making excuses for his inconsistent behavior patterns. Join the Conversation!
Favorite Things for Spring!
May is here and of course New York didn’t get the memo that the season has changed....As I organize this apartment to put up these big sweaters…hoping one day for good, I’m finding more favs that are a must have for me to get into the Spring Season, while we wait for the weather to catch up.
So, here’s my list to continue the #mood of Spring! READ MORE.
Bad Encounters: A Quick Run to the Store...
In chapter one of "Wrong Vengeance", the main character, Brandy encounters the unwanted advances of a no-good man who represents everything she's trying to run from. A quick run to the convenience store, late at night, turned into a fight for demanding respect as well as driving the point of rejection home for the "Loitering Bachelor". Join the Conversation!
Okay...I Need A Timeout!
You have to put yourself on work restriction to replenish!
When you’re going 500 miles a minute, you can’t make this a daily habit. To remedy the results of burnout, I have to readjust my time management. Along with sneaking in some self-care and yoga/meditation in between to silence my mind. I have many things on my plate (not complaining, I LOVE it), but I am in my 30s, and no normal human can function like this without properly resting. READ MORE.
Celebrating Our Authors! | Eric Jerome Dickey
It’s important to take time and pay homage to those who have gone before us. One of my fav authors, Eric Jerome Dickey tells a story like no other. His creative genius has pumped book lovers to dive into his world of love, lust, suspense, mystery and so much more.
My Favorite Things!
I want to share a few gifts. Sharing is caring right? Everyone has their own list of “must haves”, new discoveries, and trinkets for sentimental reasons. I’d like to expose a few of mine :). Hopefully these will give you new ideas, inspos, or even a confirmation that there’s another addict in your section ;). Ready? Here goes… READ MORE.
A Solo Thanksgiving.
And I LOVED every morsel of it!
My favorite holiday (Thanksgiving) as it revolves around food was a bit different this year. Since I wasn’t able to get home to GA, I took a “me” day for the occasion. My plan was to cook m own style of Thanksgiving dinner along with enjoying good wine and relaxing. READ MORE.
Thank You Mr. Mercury!
My night at an Inspirational Rock-Doc, Bohemian Rhapsody
Usually I’m not excited about movies because I have my Netflix and Hulu, but a movie about Queen. Oh I’m leaving the house for that one! Throughout the movie, I was left with nuggets of inspiration. Bohemian Rhapsody inspires me to keep going and to be the person I was meant to be and for that, I’ll always be grateful to Mr. Mercury. READ MORE.
They Found WHAT?!?!
Scary Situation While at Work...The Suspicious Packages
Leaving the building, there was a bit of madness. Men in suits walking fast-style to elevators and once I reached outside, there was a line of NYPD officers holding rifles in front of the building. Another slew of officers lined up sitting on motorcycles, sniffing dogs and more officers putting up barricades.
Table for One!
Oh Yea its just me…I’m cool with that.
Eating alone is always deemed as a bad thing. “She doesn’t have friends?” “No man to take her out?” Not even. You just need that time alone. And why wait on someone to schedule you in just to get a meal or a nice drink. Many people stay inside day and night just because they don’t have anyone to accompany them. What’s up with that?!?! READ MORE.
Nobody warned me about this New York heatwave!
One day while standing in front of my open freezer, I couldn’t take it anymore. I humped it around the corner to a local outlet store and found a window unit A/C. I’ve seen these things get installed before, no big deal right? Well before then, I had to get it home and up my 5-floor walkup. Taking my strength to walk it across the street, I realized that carrying this heavy cooling system was a no-go. Uber to the rescue! READ MORE.
Hit the Stage.
Accomplishment: My first New York Stage Play.
Being part of Precious Metals only amped me up to do more. Although I’ll miss the dynamics of my first NYC stage fam, I’ll always take the lessons and the joy with me. Now I KNOW I was born to do this. I can officially change the title from “Aspiring Actress” to “Actress”.
As always, NYC never disappoints. Whether I’m uptown or downtown, I get a chance to view the beautiful Hudson River. And across from it, the state of New Jersey. What first started as a walk on the pier with a friend, turned into a constant activity that gave me peace, serenity, and inspiration. READ MORE.
People Watching In Manhattan.
I love to “people watch” when I’m out by myself. For those who don’t know what it is, the name says it all. I like to study various mannerisms, conversations, and create my own scenarios of how two or more people ended up together and where their story will lead. READ MORE.
It wasn’t planned but, here we go…
I was on the hunt. The AMAZING APARTMENT HUNT IN NYC. But once I found my personal space…I had to wait. Wait to move in that is. So where was I going to go? On a Hotel Tour. READ MORE.
Places of Meditation.
Just give me a minute outside of this “New York Minute”!
Learning to adjust to it can be overwhelming but the beauty of the city makes it all worth it. While working out the kinks of getting used to NYC, it treats you to places and spaces to catch a breather. You must look for it or in my case, randomly run into it when life is keeping me on the go.
The New Normal. (Another Subway Story)
Oh so we’re just gonna act like that didn’t happen!?!
Venturing throughout this city, I have found the most unusual quirks, people, settings, and daily routines. I guess these factors are what makes New York...New York. One common denominator is, people just accept it "as is”. No major complaints or that brave soul to stand up and say "Hey, that's weird. Stop it!" New Yorkers go on about their day as if they'd be lost if these occurrences didn’t happen. READ MORE.
Catch the Spirit.
Staying on Task. Going for your Dreams in the NYC.
Enjoy the town but understand that while you're sleeping, out partying, or just getting taken away from the views, there are thousands more who are moving past you to get things done. READ MORE.
Random Fun Stuff:
Bathroom Selfies & Auto Timers.
Setup the camera, find a cute wall pose within the 3-10 sec window.
One of my fav activities when I hang out is to take a random selfie or setup the auto timer and pose real quick. I usually do this within the confinement of a bathroom so I’m not interrupted or getting weird looks from people passing by. READ MORE.
New Year, New M...Welp Nevermind.
End of Year Assessment. Say it with me...ACCOUNTABILITY!
Every year around this time resolutions, goals, and personal changes take over my mind and spirit.
Then six months into the New Year, old habits creeps in. Those New Year declarations become a distant memory and/or an “I’ll do it next year” task. How can one be so pumped for making a change for the New Year then allow time to pass by with no real work towards the goals? READ MORE.
The Adjustment Period.
Learning to be more patient with myself.
My advice to anyone dealing with a change of location or any type of change, GIVE YOURSELF TIME! It doesn’t all have to work out at one time. Break down your goals into steps and one by one cross them off your list. Not that you can’t work on multiple goals at once, just don’t get upset if it all doesn’t come to pass at the same time. Take every step that doesn’t work out as a lesson and come back stronger. It’ll be okay. READ MORE.
Why Am I Here?
“I ask myself what am I doing here?...” – Alessia Cara
The Thoughts of Failing. My third night in New York, the fear started to set in. As I laid in bed, in the dark, I kept asking myself, “What am I doing?” “Why am I here?” I came up here with a plan, but…was it a SOLID plan. Given the history with some of my past “plans”, they tend to fail. I didn’t want to fail. I felt like failure was waiting right outside of my bedroom door, ready to greet me with his presence. READ MORE.
Coffee Shops & Chill.
There’s something about a soothing hot beverage that ignites the spirit of the city within me. My desire to try these shops came from my obsession with the series Frasier. Watching Frasier and his brother Niles give comedic and dramatic exchanges over cups of coffee in their regular spot drew me to this place. READ MORE.
No More Birthdays.
I’m done counting time. I just want to live and be grateful.
Although I had a great day bringing in 32, I want that feeling EVERYDAY. Not just because I’m adding another year to my life. Plus, people put so much effort into an age. As soon as you meet someone, how old are you? Why does it matter? I’m here. Get to know me and see if my maturity level matches yours; because I’ve come across some grown ass kids. Sitting around counting the days and time only makes life go by faster. READ MORE.
Welcome to New York: The Subway Story
Coming from a city with only two trains, North-South & East-West. Let’s just say trying to adjust to the NY subway system was a bit…different. Back in my visiting days, I attempted to hop on a train from the World Trade Center to Penn Station and ended up in Hoboken, NJ. Yea…that was an adventure lol. Learning the hard way that I couldn’t use a regular MTA card purchased from New York, I realized that I had A LOT to learn about getting around. And just hopping on any old train going anywhere wasn’t going to do. READ MORE.
Roses & Shyt.
When a Snap Chat Filter Makes You Reflect.
Playing around on SnapChat. (Side Bar: I usually do this when I have my contacts in b/c the facial recognition doesn’t work with these cat eye glasses.) Anywho, I started to think about the actual flower. A Rose. And what makes it grow….in some cases, people use rich soil, seaweed, but what really came to mind, was manure. READ MORE.
Finding Myself in Art.
The Evening I Found My Spirit Animals in an Art Gallery.
Thank you Marko Stout!
The temperature was dropping and of course the train is delayed. But I'm glad I had the opportunity to attend a VIP Party featuring the amazing works of multimedia artist, Marko Stout. This style of art spoke to me. I felt like a few of these models were my "Spirit Animals" guided by the notion to let go of inhibitions and be YOU. Sexy, edgy, beautiful and COOL. READ MORE.
A New Yorker was Born.
Sometimes you gotta throw yourself out of your comfort zone.
Since my first visit back in 2013, I fell in love with the NYC. The spirit of the city, the hustle of each day bringing new adventures and activities. Falling into this culture with each visit, I decided to make it my mission to spend my 30s as a New Yorker. READ MORE.
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